Resources

Articles 

Domestic Violence and Abuse: Recognizing the Signs of an Abusive Relationship and Getting Help
Explains the signs of domestic abuse and how to get help.

Many types of abuse 
Outlines examples of each type of abuse.

Top Warning Signs of Domestic Abuse
Helps you figure out if someone you know is being abused.

Do You Think You’re Being Abused?
“Look over the following questions. Think about how you are being treated and how you treat your partner. Remember, when one person scares, hurts, or continually puts down the other person, it is abuse.” Read

Dating Emotional Predators: Signs to Look Out For
“Dating an emotional predator, a narcissist, a sociopath or anyone else who has the potential to be an abusive or toxic influence in your life is a devastating emotional roller coaster of highs and lows.” Read

How to Recognize the Signs of Mental and Emotional Abuse
“You probably know many of the more obvious signs of mental and emotional abuse. But when you’re in the midst of it, it can be easy to miss the persistent undercurrent of abusive behavior.” Read

The Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
“Here are some warning signs you may be in a controlling or abusive relationship.” Read

You’re Not Going Crazy: 5 Sure Signs You’re Being Emotionally Abused
“Because emotional abuse has become such a popular topic in the self-help and psychology fields, you may already be familiar with some of its signs, which may include withdrawal of affection, name-calling, and control. But if you suspect you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, you may be so immersed in it that you can’t read the very destructive handwriting on the wall. Emotional abuse becomes, in a sense, your blurred normal.” Read

Websites

Flying Free 
Help for women of faith experiencing emotional and spiritual abuse.

Confusion to Clarity
Help for Christian women experiencing covert emotional and psychological abuse.

When Love Hurts
Information to help women understand abuse in relationships.

Little Red Survivor – Freedom From Narcissistic Abuse

Domestic Abuse

When Love Hurts: A Woman’s Guide to Understanding Abuse in Relationships 
by Jill Cory and Karen McAndless-Davis

Everyone should read this book but especially if you suspect you might be in an abusive relationship. You’ll find a lot of useful information including how victims are impacted by abuse, descriptions of the types of abuse, and what an abusive belief system is.

No Visible Bruises: What We Don’t Know About Domestic Violence Can Kill Us
by Rachel Louise Snyder

A journalist’s investigation into the world of domestic violence. A lot of helpful and important information if you have been in a domestic violence situation or you are helping someone who is.

Christian Women Experiencing Abuse

Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse 
by Natalie Hoffman

If you’re a Christian woman in a relationship and you’re not sure if it is abusive or not, this book will help. 

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope 
by Leslie Vernick

This book helps to explain if your marriage is a disappointing marriage or if it is a destructive marriage.

Understanding Abusive Men

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
by Lundy Bancroft

This is a must-read if you want to understand why abusive men do what they do. 

Currently Experiencing Abuse in a Relationship

Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That? Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men
by Lundy Bancroft

If you are in an abusive relationship this book has encouragement for your day-to-day.

What It’s Like to Experience Abuse

Did He Hit You?: a memoir of secrets, survival, and subtle abuse
by Aubri Black

If you have ever wondered what it is like to get into and then out of a covertly abusive relationship, pick up this page-turner, and read for yourself. If you are an abuse survivor, this book will remind you that you are not alone.

Healing From Abuse

Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
by Shannon Thomas

If you’ve experienced hidden abuse and are ready to start healing from it, this book is a great start.

Personal Growth

Lower Mainland (Canada)

Domestic Violence – HealthLinkBC
Phone numbers and information for BC residents.

SARA For Women
Mission and Abbotsford, BC

Ishtar Women’s Resource Society
Langley, BC

Monarch Place Transition House
New Westminster, BC

United States

The National Domestic Violence Hotline 
Operating around the clock, seven days a week, confidential and free of cost, the National Domestic Violence Hotline provides lifesaving tools and immediate support to enable victims to find safety and live lives free of abuse. 

Safe Horizon
Safe Horizon’s mission is to provide support, prevent violence and promote justice for victims of crime and abuse, their families and communities.


Updated: April 2020