When we say something often, it starts to lose its meaning. We forget to think about it and we just say it or ignore it.
I’ve often thought the saying “never say never” was stupid. Why can’t I say never? I know what the saying means. I just got annoyed by it. Now I think it is good advice. Because really you never know.
I like to think that I know myself well enough to say “never” and mean it. But this year has taught me, you can never fully know when you say never that you will mean never forever. I don’t know what will happen in my life or what could happen. I could never have predicted where I am today.
I’ve said there are many things that I would never do and would never happen, but I did and they have. It is ridiculous of me to make assumptions that I will be the exact same person in the future. I actually hope in many ways I won’t be. As well as, it is unwise to think that circumstances won’t affect any “never” claims.
It doesn’t make sense to say never unless you are fine with going back and correcting what you said. If I tell people I’m never going to Australia, which I have many times, I’ll feel like I need to explain and justify myself if I do go there one day. In reality, I don’t actually need to explain, but I will feel like I should.
I want to be someone who keeps my word and is fine with people holding me accountable. So never saying never would avoid the inevitable I-thought-you-said-you-would-never-go-there conversation.
Remembering to never say never, reminds us that we can and do change. We aren’t stuck where we are. We can experience growth in our lives. We can become better and do better. We can learn to be more understanding, more flexible. And that is a good thing.
From now on when it comes to how I see my life, I won’t rule anything out, and I’ll let the opportunities be what they may and allow life to happen.
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