Unless you are bald, the hair on your head is with you everywhere. It is a defining feature. I have changed my hair many times. I’ve had orange, red, black, brown, blonde, platinum…to name a few. For the past maybe eight or so years, I’ve had short hair, usually in a pixie cut. After a bad experience at a salon, I declared: I’m growing my hair out. Then another moment came—where I was fed up with things in my life—and I decided: Ok, I am done with blonde, I am dying my hair brown. This was in an attempt to go back to my natural dark blonde roots. Oddly enough, four days after changing my hair I quit my job. Clearly there was unrest happening in me that I didn’t even know about fully, and it manifested itself… in my hair choice. I have gone through many different times…
There’s a horrible habit we have in our society that I am not a fan of, but am guilty of, and need to confess. Many of us do this stupid thing where we compare ourselves to others. When we compare, we judge. And in comparing we might feel horrible because of where we are or we find ourselves feeling superior because we are much farther ahead. Neither of these are good for the soul. You are good enough. Just for being you. You don’t need to compare yourself to someone else to feel okay with who you are. But sometimes I still do this. Do you wonder if you are good enough if you are worthy if you belong? Our culture teaches us that the way to know this is to look down on the other people around you and then by doing so you can elevate yourself. Not…