Did He Hit You?

“A powerful, important voice exploring the devastating impact of coercive control.”

Karen McAndless-Davis, coauthor of When Love Hurts

Aubri had the perfect marriage, or at least that’s what she thought. Behind the elaborate facade, she battled constant confusion as she navigated the ups and downs of a destructive marriage.

Through a series of unexpected events, she realizes that not everyone is who they say they are and that some build their entire lives on words alone. As secrets emerge and survival becomes paramount, the truth can no longer hide. Aubri finally discovers what she’s been experiencing all along.

This is first-time author Aubri Black’s #metoo #churchtoo story. This is the story of what happens when you are young and naive, desperate to be in love, shackled by patriarchal religious views, and most of all, married.

The question abuse victims often hear is, “Did he hit you?” This book is one survivor’s answer.


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Reviews of Did He Hit You?

Aubri’s is a compelling story. I devoured it in two days and had a hard time putting it down. — Anya Wyers, author of Letters to the Mountain

A poignant yet gentle recounting of insidious abuse that almost crushed a bright, beautiful, and vibrant young woman. — Jane Herbin, D. Min.

Abuse is not always physical and this book does a great job of explaining that. Coming from an abusive relationship myself, I could never really talk about my experience but this author truly articulates it in a way that I could never do. Being a memoir makes it relatable. It is sincere and raw, which makes it easy to read. — Stella


Once I started I couldn’t put this book down. Must read for anyone! This will help those in abusive relationships and help others know what signs to look for and how to offer the right advice, resources and support. Highly recommend you won’t be disappointed!
— Crystal

I couldn’t put it down! A very courageous telling of a painful journey of abuse that is so easily minimized, denied and forgotten because the scars aren’t easily seen. — Amazon Customer


I could not put this book down. For me, it was a page turner because of the similarities in my own life living with an emotionally abusive man. It read like a novel and it kept me wondering what’s going to happen next? — Lynn S.


This is a compelling, heartbreaking, and empowering read. Aubri writes with a mix of strength and vulnerability as she describes the life she was trapped in. I found myself nodding along in frustration and shaking my head in disbelief….Read this book. Listen to her story and let it inspire you to share yours. — Jillian

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